UNDERSTANDING YOU...... love

Understanding ......YOU

Why?

woman often ask themselves...

1)when i ask him to find something in the fridge, he takes ages and never finds it but woman can spot something from a mile away?

2) when i come home after work, tired and stress, i blurt out to him ALL my worries, he seems distant, answering with a single word or response, as though he doesn't care, and we jump to conclusions as though he doesn't love us but all he's thinking about is about his car or bike...

3)Why we can multitask but men can't?

4)Why do women talk TALK so much??? why men say so little?

5)Why men can read maps and woman can't?

6)Why woman say yes and mean no, but man can't figure it out?

7)Why woman have a good instinct, that inner voice? Why man are considered insensitive?

8)Why woman likes to be touched?

9)Why woman value relationships and men value their success in work?

10) Why men hate to fail in tasks and doesn't want to feel helpless?

11)Why men keep problems to themselves and woman express them?

12) Why woman express their problems just to be heard but when men give advice, they get angry?

13)....and LASTLY, my own personal question..... why is it, after marriage, the honeymoon phase starts to fade..... you see he's true color..... you start to argue??? oh...oh.....

DON'T fret....... that's when i told myself.... i need to understand him MORE..... so i needed a solution

one fine day, at Senai Airport, Johor,  just before i got on a plane to go back to my hometown, Kuala Lumpur...i stopped by at the MPH bookstore, asking for this book,.....

instead, the lady gave me this book......

and guess what? its translated into Bahasa Melayu...  ^_^

I TOTALLY adore this book. Once i took hold of this book, it was hard to let it go. Its information is based on research done by this husband and wife for a few years concluding that females and males brains are totally different. How it functions and which sites of the brains are active during different emotions explains why we are different. They even made studies on babies that show baby girls are more prone to respond  with people around them than baby boys.

The book opened my eyes.... how i see my relationship with my husband. I understand now, we are just different cause of how our brain works. What woman really want and prioritize is totally different from what men wants and expectations.

and....

 Dispite my constant search to find John Grays book, its an old book, and my coworker had it. I read a few pages and found its more or less the same, just that Allan Pease's book is evidence based with lots of studies and lots of fun!!

one example WHY WOMAN SAY ONE THING BUT MEAN THE OTHER

While driving  Sarah asked Peter:
Sarah: "Do you want a coffee?"
Pete: "No thanks. I'm good" .....*how sweet of her to ask me*
Sarah: *looks miserable after a while*
Pete: "Did i say something wrong? Are you okay?"
Sarah: "You didn't even want to stop. I wanted a drink?"
Pete:*searching in his brain if she said she wanted to STOP driving*
Sarah: "I wanted to drink a coffee so badly... you didn't even get the hint" *sulking*
Pete: "I don't read minds! how am i suppose to know?"

conclusion: woman = around the bush
men = be straight with me!

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
Hubby: u merajuk eh?
Me: takdelar
Hubby: eh? u merajuk sebab i keluar tadi ke?
Me: Ye lar, habis tu
Hubby: Tadi u cakap u tak kisah i keluar...??
Me: ayang, i thought you know me well enough, that no means yes.....and yes means no.
Hubby: huh????

hehe...sian dia.... communication is the key. *TING!*
Hope you girls will try to read this book...  ^_^

Nite2.... sleep well.... just want to share my pic with you