DOA......

PENDAPAT PARA ULAMA TENTANG DOA

I want to ask you a question today, when you pray to God asking for something, do you get fustrated when you don't see results after praying again, again and again asking for the same thing?

Today's topic is about DOA. I'm reading a book about "INGATLAH KEPADA ALLAH, NESCAYA ALLAH AKAN MENGINGATIMU".

According to this book, hadis meriwayat Abu Hurairah dari Nabi S.A.W. bersabda:

"BERDOALAH KEPADA ALLAH DDENGAN HATI  YANG AMAT YAKIN BAHAWA DOA TERSEBUT PASTI DIKABULKAN DAN KETAHUI BAHAWASANYA ALLAH TIDAK AKAN MENERIMA DOA YANG DATANG DARI HATI YANG LALAI"


At this age, (ecece macam tua je...hehe) i realized, what ever i asked from Allah S.W.T. Alhamdulillah he has answered my prayers, with time. For example, when i was an undergraduate, i really wanted a MYVI car. I saw a Chinese girl driving it to class. Admiring it, i wished silently to have one myself. Oh, how i admired it. but i knew i couldn't afford one. So, i prayed. Asking for one. I didn't get one straight away. It took me a year and a half. But, i still finally got it. Alhamdulillah............... And i was very happy.

ABU DZARR BERKATA," DOA AKAN MEMBUAHKAN HASIL APABILA DISERTAI DENGAN PERBUATAN YANG BAIK, SEBAGAINYA MAKANAN AKAN LEBIH TERASA APABILA DIBUBUH GARAM"

It has been said in the book that factors causing Allah S.W.T to not accepting the DOA, is because we are impatient to wait for the results. So, we finally stop asking and praying for it. Like growing a tree, we have to first plant the seed and wait for it to grow, giving it water and sufficient sunlight. A tree doesn't grow overnight right?

  There are also preper ways to say the DOA.
-facing the 'kiblat'
-lifting up both hands
-starting with 'zikir'
-in a 'suci' condition
-selawat kepada nabi Muhammad S.A.W.
-before DOA, make sure you ask for forgiveness, regretting mistakes we have done

-BONUS, 'bersedekah' dahulu

InshaAllah your prayers will be heard and will come true. Have faith.

YAHYA ibn MU'ADZ ar-RAZI BERKATA: "KENAPA KAMU TIDAK SABAR MENUNGGU JAWAPAN DARI SEBUAH DOA? PADAHAL KAMU SENDIRI YANG TELAH MELAMBATKAN DATANGNYA JAWAPAN ITU DENGAN DOSA-DOSA YANG TETAP KAMU LAKUKAN"

So i hope,this gives you motivation to have patience and faith when asking something from ALLAH S.W.T

I'm praying for a baby at the moment. Being my 4th month being married, i have always wanted a baby.
i won't give up praying and asking... InsyaAllah...

UNDERSTANDING YOU...... love

Understanding ......YOU

Why?

woman often ask themselves...

1)when i ask him to find something in the fridge, he takes ages and never finds it but woman can spot something from a mile away?

2) when i come home after work, tired and stress, i blurt out to him ALL my worries, he seems distant, answering with a single word or response, as though he doesn't care, and we jump to conclusions as though he doesn't love us but all he's thinking about is about his car or bike...

3)Why we can multitask but men can't?

4)Why do women talk TALK so much??? why men say so little?

5)Why men can read maps and woman can't?

6)Why woman say yes and mean no, but man can't figure it out?

7)Why woman have a good instinct, that inner voice? Why man are considered insensitive?

8)Why woman likes to be touched?

9)Why woman value relationships and men value their success in work?

10) Why men hate to fail in tasks and doesn't want to feel helpless?

11)Why men keep problems to themselves and woman express them?

12) Why woman express their problems just to be heard but when men give advice, they get angry?

13)....and LASTLY, my own personal question..... why is it, after marriage, the honeymoon phase starts to fade..... you see he's true color..... you start to argue??? oh...oh.....

DON'T fret....... that's when i told myself.... i need to understand him MORE..... so i needed a solution

one fine day, at Senai Airport, Johor,  just before i got on a plane to go back to my hometown, Kuala Lumpur...i stopped by at the MPH bookstore, asking for this book,.....

instead, the lady gave me this book......

and guess what? its translated into Bahasa Melayu...  ^_^

I TOTALLY adore this book. Once i took hold of this book, it was hard to let it go. Its information is based on research done by this husband and wife for a few years concluding that females and males brains are totally different. How it functions and which sites of the brains are active during different emotions explains why we are different. They even made studies on babies that show baby girls are more prone to respond  with people around them than baby boys.

The book opened my eyes.... how i see my relationship with my husband. I understand now, we are just different cause of how our brain works. What woman really want and prioritize is totally different from what men wants and expectations.

and....

 Dispite my constant search to find John Grays book, its an old book, and my coworker had it. I read a few pages and found its more or less the same, just that Allan Pease's book is evidence based with lots of studies and lots of fun!!

one example WHY WOMAN SAY ONE THING BUT MEAN THE OTHER

While driving  Sarah asked Peter:
Sarah: "Do you want a coffee?"
Pete: "No thanks. I'm good" .....*how sweet of her to ask me*
Sarah: *looks miserable after a while*
Pete: "Did i say something wrong? Are you okay?"
Sarah: "You didn't even want to stop. I wanted a drink?"
Pete:*searching in his brain if she said she wanted to STOP driving*
Sarah: "I wanted to drink a coffee so badly... you didn't even get the hint" *sulking*
Pete: "I don't read minds! how am i suppose to know?"

conclusion: woman = around the bush
men = be straight with me!

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE
Hubby: u merajuk eh?
Me: takdelar
Hubby: eh? u merajuk sebab i keluar tadi ke?
Me: Ye lar, habis tu
Hubby: Tadi u cakap u tak kisah i keluar...??
Me: ayang, i thought you know me well enough, that no means yes.....and yes means no.
Hubby: huh????

hehe...sian dia.... communication is the key. *TING!*
Hope you girls will try to read this book...  ^_^

Nite2.... sleep well.... just want to share my pic with you

BUT why??

Why All of the sudden, lil' miss tutperry wants to start a blog..... its all because i read and want to share thoughts and views about how i see things.

I always read, i love books, has always been wearing thick glasses since the tender age of 7 and love everything about bookstores. (okay, now i sound like a geek).
Everyone else is writing a Blog about fashion, hijabs and about cool things in their lives, but i'm going to quote inspiring people and books. I don't know much about fashion or make a scarf look like a funky do,..when i try to make a hanna tajima hijab style, i just look like a girl wrapping her head after coming out of the showers.
Hehe..... okay here goes....

Today, i read a book "70 kisah teladan" and want to share a story about a woman named Asma' binti Yazid.
(okay this is when i start to write in malay, since its about Islam, i find it easier to understand)

Asma binti Yazid adalah Jurubicara Kaum Wanita.

Muslim bin 'Ubaid meriwayatkan bahawa Asma' binti Yazid datang kepada Rasullullah S.A.W. Saat itu Rasullullah S.A.W. berada di kalangan sahabatnya. 


Asma' berkata, "Wahai Rasullullah! Aku adalah wakil kaum wanita untuk menyampaikan harapan mereka kepada kepadamu. Allah S.W.T. mengutusmu untuk seluruh manusia, baik laki-laki mahupun perempuan. Kami pun beriman kepadamu dan kepada Tuhanmu. Namun, kami sebagai kaum wanita sangat terbatas aktivitinya. Kami hanya duduk-duduk di rumah, menjadi pendamping suami, dan mengandung anak-anak. Sementara kalian, kaum lelaki, mendapatkan keistimewaa  yang lebih daripada kami. Kalian dapat berjemaah, melakukan solat jumaat, menjenguk orang sakit, menghadiri kematian, membuat haji berkali-kali dan lebih istimewa....dapat berjihad di jalan Allah. Selain itu, apabila kaum laki-laki pergi berhaji, umrah atau berjihad, kami hanya menjaga harta kalian, menyediakan pakaian kalian dan mengururskan anak-anak kalian. Adakan kami dapat pahala yang sama dalam semua itu?"

Rasullullah S.A.W. memandang ke arah para sahabatnya lalu berkata, "Apakah kalian pernah dengar ada wanita yang permintaannya dalam masalah agama lebih baik daripada wanita ini?"

Mereka berkata," Wahai Rasulullah! Kami tidak mengira ada wanita mendapat hidayah seperti ini".

Lalu Rasulullah S.A.W. berkata kepada Asma', "Ketahui dan fahami olehmu dan kaum wanita yang ada di belakangmu bahawa kalian mendapat pahala yang sama pahala yang didapatkan oleh kaum lelaki jika kalian melayani suami kalian dengan baik, yaitu dengan mencari redhanya dan mengikuti perintahnya."

Setelah mendapat jawapan itu, Asma' keluar .

 Siapakah Asma' binti Yazid?
seorang jurubicara kaum wanita dan seorang sahabat wanita yang aktif mendukung pasukan perang

I find her this story very inspiring. You can be a housewife or have a profession, as long as you treat your husband with full of love, everything you do is an "ibadat" and every time you dress-up for him you get "pahala".......

REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE
Theres this one Specialist clinic i used to be posted in, where all the staff will get excited at 4.30 p.m. just before the punchcard time at 5 p.m.  Do you know why? They will get their make-ups ready, blusher on the go!......mascaras on gear! ANd they will make-up themselves, because their husbands are fetching them at 5 p.m. oh! how sweeeett..... "Berhias untuk Suami Tersayang"

CONCLUSION
 Semoga suara perjuangan Asma' selalu didengari muslimah.........

Night, night.... hope didn't bore you on the first attempt. ^_^

 love you bee...